2. What are three important things to do before getting married?
Have your own credit rating
Target practise
An escape plan
Rent six horrendous children for a weekend for the two of you and see who does most of the care and how
Discuss financial matters, sexual expectations, child rearing practises, how much time you will spend with in-laws, if there is any porn addiction
Get a pre-nup
Make sure you both are honest with eachother in all aspects, and make sure you both have the same religeous beliefs and financial desires.
- Really get to know his/her family – and how he/she interacts with family, friends.
- Have fun
- Get an education
- Talk about your goals as a couple/family – make sure your mate wants to have children if you do, etc.
- Religion can be an issue if each partner is of a different religion. You need to decide how the
children will be raised before they come along.
- Discuss how you will handle finances
Live on your own. Have a job and earn/spend your own money. Travel with a friend.
Take a class in learning to negotiate, resolve problems, effective communication
Discusss financial matters, habits, expectations
Take a parenting class together
Take some preparation classes to learn how to disagree appropriately, communicate, etc.
Take some fun classes together (his hobby, her hobby)
Talk, talk, talk about everything you expect from a marriage and a spouse (children, financial situation, will she work after marriage, dividing time between the in-laws, etc.)
1) have a holiday together away from family, just the 2 of you...a good test as to whether or not you are compatible travellers
2) let him cook you dinner....see if he really can or if he just claims to love to cook
3) set the ground rules on family visits.... a key or need to knock?
4) get JOINT accounts
1. fast 2. pray and 3. listen for the answer on whether or not you are to marry that person.
Three important things to do before getting married are get as much education as possible, try to have a savings account that can be used in emergencies or tough times, and make sure you have a solid spiritual foundation of you own.
The first important thing to do before you get married is to make sure his religious beliefs are the same as yours. The second important item would be to discuss both families dynamics. Some individuals think once they marry you then you will never want to visit your family again. Men and women need to know once married both families become part of your life. Third important thing to discuss is the finances. Joint accounts with both parties budgeting and discussing where money should and should not be spent.
Get yourself as taken care of as possible, get rid of your problems from youth and start fresh with your partner to change/be a pioneer and stop old dysfunctional attitudes if they are in your youth. Be spiritually grounded, do what you need to be strong and ready to teach a family. Be prepared to forgive, communicate on a strong and assertive level as well as be teachable so you can change things that maybe your partner will ask of you.
1) Become best friends - honest best friends.
2) Get spiritual matters in order - be certain that you are on the same page.
3) Get rid of the baggage.
1. You need to talk about finances and who will take care of the household finances, spending and savings, after you council together.
2. You need to discuss and agree on children, how many, will momma be working or can she make some extra money at home.
3. You need to discuss your commitment to God and how you will serve him when you are asked.
1) Make sure you have set in place and achieved goals for your own self and who you are. Get an education. Make sure your life is going in the direction you want it to go, don't give up yourself, your potential, just to be with another human being. Your relationship should compliment each other, not one losing out.
2) Get proper marriage counselling, from someone who knows what they are doing!!! Find someone who does in depth counselling over the period of a few weeks. Do this early before you pay for the dress, the hall, caterer, etc...so that you can cancel if you realize you aren't ready.
3) Live on your own away from parents. Experience some of what life has to offer. Mature a bit.
4) Get a background check on your future mate!
Agree on how to handle finances
Agree on when to have kids
Agree on where to live or any other major decision
1. learn how to fight fair!
2. learn all you can about each others families and beliefs
3. discuss money, who's paying the bills, if kids come along who will stay home if either.
Talk honestly about finances, children and faith/religion
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